Gender, Homosex, BDSM, Christianity & Updates

Woah — it’s been almost a year since my last post.  For my readers; both of you, I apologize for the lack of updates.  I’ve been busy with family, fun and love … managing work during the in-betweens. But, my kids are now all in school full-time (10 years in the making!) and I’m hoping to write more this year.

I’ve spent the morning reading a blog I stumbled on by Hugo Schwyzer,  a “community college history and gender studies professor, animal rights activist and Episcopal youth minister”.  Topics include gender, BDSM & Christians, homosexuality, Older Men and Younger Women, and many of the comments are as interesting and insightful as his original posts.

I think I found the PunkAssBlog through a comment from the above mentioned blog.  Tons of quality reading material here. “Homosex” is a good post, I also dug “Transgender” in which the poster mentions:

I was encouraged to consider any and all professions growing up, and marriage and parenthood were practically never mentioned to me, also thereby eradicating any discussion of those future gendered roles as well. In short, I couldn’t imagine wishing to be either a boy or a girl in particular in childhood, as both genders were pretty meaningless to me in terms of defining who and what I was or ever wanted to be. I was neither pleased nor distressed to be a girl , and if I’d suddenly transformed into a boy, I really don’t think I would have cared too much. So did I lack a strong gender identity because of my upbringing, or because I personally simply lack a strong gender identity period..?”

In my youth I believed gender was B.S. and everyone was just “pretending” to be boy-ish and girl-ish. As a teenager I believed gender was mostly a social construct, and folks were conditioned into their gender roles. After I had my own kids (2 girls and a boy) I recognized their was A LOT more to nature in the nurture vs. nature debate. In other words, I’ve only just recognized that gender is not a choice for everybody… but it is for some people.

So, what I’ve learned is that shit is complicated.

Stay tuned…

The Internal Clit

Betty Dodson draws the clitoral Map, from the inside out:

You can find more from Betty Dodson on her blog.

Queerish Quickies

I found a few lgbt blogs worth reading recently, here are some of my favorite posts:

On Sympathizing with Homophobes – Insightful, especially the last few paragraphs.

How to lower taxes in same-sex relationships – Queer taxes.

The Lowly Suburban Queer – Jonathan ponders if his suburban neighbors have working gaydar.

A Brown Girl Gone Gay – Wonderful post about the black community & homophobia.

Labiaplasty – The Perfect Vagina

hell? I'm on my way.Ever wish you had more youthful-looking labia?

Me, neither… (and I have 3 kids) but there are tons of women who are getting there tender bits snipped to look more appealing.

Labiaplasty is a cosmetic surgery which involves cutting off the inner labia so that they don’t hang below the outer labia.

I’ve heard of this before… but just read a great article on the F-Word called “The Perfect Vagina”, in which the author writes about the procedure and a recent documentary made about the subject.

To the right is a diagram (based on the image of Mary of Guadeloupe) showing the inner labia… bringing this blogs blasphemy score to +5.

While doing research for this post I also found some interesting info about “labia stretching” — which has the opposite desired effect of labiaplasty. Labia stretching is a elongation of the inner labia through the use of manual manipulation or weights.

Labia stretching is actually common practice in Rwanda, the elongated labia are viewed by Rwandan women as enhancing female ejaculation and orgasm. Elsewhere on the planet there are folks who just think large labia are super sexy (I like these people).

In fact, there is a ton of information online about how to stretch yer inner lips.

FYI: My girlfriend thinks pulling on the inner labia feels “neat”, while I can only give it a rating of feeling “different”.

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Thanks to Matt for passing along this video:


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What the Fig?

I thought that I was a bit of an expert when it comes to bizarre sexual practices…but this one is brand new to me. Today, I am going to talk to you about Figging :

ginger for figgingFigging: The act of inserting a piece of peeled ginger into the anus, causing an intense burning sensation.

From Wikipedia:

Historically, this practice, also known as feaguing was used to ginger up older horses in order to deceive the purchaser as to the age and condition of the horse.

The horse reacts to the sensation caused by the ginger by holding its tail and head high and moving around nervously, which is more characteristic of a younger horse.

Turns out there are groups of figging fanatics who enjoy this torture. Some folks like to carve the ginger into a shape of a butt-plug. Since I have no experience with figging, I leave you with resources which you can explore if you are interested:

Figging – a How-to-Guide.

Wikipedia entry on Figging.

Canada: The New Sodom

I wrote a post about Proposition 8 – concerning same-sex marriage, and received some passionate comments.

In fact, that post on prop 8 received more comments than any other post written here thus far. Many of the commenters are quoting the Bible. I’d like to invite you b-thumpers to also comment on some of my other posts such as: this one about a guy that does strange things with chicken eggs (he is NOT Canadian btw).

god hates beaverAnyhow… back to Canada burning:

I started reading what other people have to say about Proposition 8, and same-sex marriage laws. I saw a lot of comments from the religious side referencing “Sodom and Gomorrah” — with doomsday warnings.

Some folks interpret Genesis 19:5 as proof that homosexual behavior led to the destruction of the ancient cities of Sodom and Gomorrah. But, the traditional Jewish interpretation is that Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed because of their lack of hospitality (good will towards guests).

Either way, this got me thinking: “Hey, I live in Canada… not only is homosexuality legal here, so is gay marriage.”

Do these folks who fear a repeat of Sodom and Gomorrah really think Canada is going to receive the wrath of god?

Sex Quickies

Here are some links I came across recently:

Man attempts to make sweet love to a park bench, and gets his willy stuck. It took 4 hours to separate his penis from the bench. Follow link for more info and pics.

High School asshole principle gets support for being an asshole.

Doctor likes the cock – patient has regrets, doctor to loose license.