Savage Love Advice
Savage Love is a syndicated sex-advice column by Dan Savage. It started in 1991 with the first issue of the Seattle weekly newspaper The Stranger.
Some interesting bits:
In 2001 Savage challenged his readers to coin a name for the sex act in which a woman uses a strap-on dildo to perform anal sex on her male partner. After multiple nominations and a reader vote, the verb “peg” was chosen — and now “pegging” is a well-known neologism.
From one of his readers:
Boy prostitutes were sometimes called peg boys because they would sit on pegs to keep their assholes open between clients, so I suggest the word “peg.” The woman would be the “pegger”, the boy would be the “peggee,” the act would be “pegging,” and the boy would write in his personal ad: “I want to get pegged.”
Paris P.
Here are links to a few of my favorite columns from the archives:
How’d That Happen?! – Includes a letter from a 200% straight man.
Back in the Saddle – Sex with dragon robots and other interesting topics.
PodoMania – A gay readers gets advice on how to get straight men to let him suck on their toes.
Savage’s open and blunt advice dealing with fetishes and all other good things is refreshing. He is also funny. So check out Savage Love for the complete archives.
Spock and Kirk…Closer
Oh oh oh…. my earlier post about strange dating websites reminded me of the following video. It’s a mashup of old Star Trek scenes features Kirk and Spock mixed with the song Closer by Nine Inch Nails:
(Warning song has some explicit lyrics:)
I got a good chuckle out of this, and so did some friends. I thought the editing was pretty awesome for an amateur mashup vid. What do you think?
Dating Sites I Bet You Didn’t Know Existed
Looking for love…or maybe just a spanking?
There really is something for everyone. Here is a quick roundup of some of the strangest or most unique specialized dating sites we could dig up:
TrekPassions.com – Dating & social networking for trekies, geeks and those that travel in similar circles. If you are looking to date a Klingon — this is the place for you.
Unfortunately, it seems they didn’t hire proper geeks to make a website layout that doesn’t break in Firefox. Pffft.
Also, from the name I was expecting to find some photo-shopped Kirk & Spock fan art. Damn it.
AshleyMadison.com – Enabling married folks to sleep around… I guess that’s cheaper than therapy or divorce.
According to their website: “Life is short. Have an affair.” For the record, I don’t agree — but maybe your spouse does.
SugarDaddie.com Dating – Hey! Are you rich, and prefer to keep relationships superficial?
It’s like prostitution, but prettier (and more expensive).
Alt.com – For kinky people, really kinky people, and some really f**ked up individuals.
If yer looking to get tied up, tie someone else up or would rather just date within the sexually liberal lifestyle this could be the site for you. Plus they have stuff for every kink imaginable.
More Unique Dating Sites:
So your not rich, a geek, cheater, or particularly kinky? There is still hope for you! For instance, ever consider dating an inmate? Who hasn’t?!
Does your head often bump into things? Maybe try personals for tall people at tallfriends.com
Conclusion
Thanks for making through to the end of the post. Know of even stranger places to find a date? Feel free to post a comment below. Thanks.
Online Dating Tip #1 – Safety
People lie and the anonymity of online dating allows for easy deception.
How do you know who you are talking to online is really who they say they are? You don’t — until you meet them. Many people are warry of meeting potential dates online because of this very reason. But, if you take a few simple precautions you can avoid getting burned:
1. First dates /meetings should be held in a public place such as a coffee shop. The first time you meet someone from online isn’t about having a dream date — it’s about meeting and deciding if you want to see them again. Do not exchange personal information that could be later used for stalking purposes.
2. During your meeting, have a friend scheduled to call you at a set time. This is your check-up call so that your friends can make sure that:
a.) you are still alive.
b.) you have the opportunity to leave an awkward/unwanted situation if needed.
If you keep these tips in mind, you should feel more at ease to seek relationships online. Good luck.
Romantic Death – Brilliant Video
I found this video awhile back and just re-found it… posting it here for your viewing pleasure, and also so that I don’t misplace the URL again.
The song is called “Romantic Death”, performed by The Sun. The video is a compilation of clips from Beautiful Agony.com , a site dedicated to the beauty of human orgasm.
What is Sex?
“Mom, what is sex?”
My 5 year old said this to me the other day. The question seemingly came out of thin air, as she asked while she was sitting on the couch watching Scooby Doo.
Without thinking, I bravely poked my head out from behind my laptop and had every intention of telling her about the birds and bees. But, when I opened my mouth, all that came out was “well…”, I could feel my face turning red and turned away because I started laughing.
I looked back at her, and she had a straight face waiting for an explanation. I got up and sat with her on the couch and asked “What do you think sex is?”
She explained that sex was when you take off your pants and go over the fence into the bushes. (the bushes are what separates our property from the school yard).
“Hmmm…” I said, ”and then…”
“And then you rub your pee-pees together.” she said flatly.
Nice.
We had a good long, but easy-going discussion about the topic. She was very informative with mis-information her group of friends were talking about. Some of her 5 year old friends were “having sex”… taking turns and deciding who would be the next to “go behind the bushes”.
The discussion brought back memories of myself and the boy across the street from my childhood home being 4 years old. We learned what sex was from his older brother, and watching movies with kissing in them.
We “had sex” up in a tree in his backyard… or I should say, we kissed and played I’ll show you mine, if you show me yours.
Isn’t 5 years old the best age ?
( Originally posted on 9/26/2004 )
